Monday, September 18, 2006

Do i expect too much from people or what?

Hello my blog paddies (friends) . It's another Monday again. I'm blogging today 'cos i want to hear my acquired big sister's gist, a.k.a. my Executive Producer, the one and only Madam Temmy on blogger. Kai! See how i'd do anything for gist. May God help me. Anyways, i go to the doctors office every Monday to shadow them. You know the Nigerian doctors, that have the husband and wife practice in my zones. So something happened today, that led to the title of this post. I shadowed them all summer, voluntarily. I was involved in a bunch of things, calling the patients in and prepping them to be seen by the doctor, staying in the examination room with the doc. and even filing charts. I was basically doing a bunch of stuff, even though i wasn't asked to do 'em, i was just trying to make myself useful at least, to relieve the staff working tirelessly. Sometimes, they're just so overwhelmed with the work, that i take pity on 'em. True, they're getting paid and i'm not, but i really don't think that should matter. I enjoyed and still enjoy every bit of what i do there, and i'm grateful to them for letting me come in, at least i'm gaining some experience. At the end of the summer, i bought a thank you card for the doc. and his wife, to express my appreciation. I did the same thing with all the docs. i shadowed.

So today, i was at their office and it was around lunch time. They usually buy lunch for all their staff, the staff was taking orders of all the other people, the doc, his wife, his nephew Junior ( who's like my younger brother in school) . I was right there, and i was expecting the lady doc, when she told them to include Jnr, even though he wasn't there, to also ask if i'd like to order something. She didn't, neither did her husband. I was surprised. I don't expect too much from people, i try not to 'cos i don't want to be too shocked and disappointed if they don't meet that expectation. Basically, i was surprised for 2 reasons:
(1) They are fellow Naijas like me and u know how we do in Nigeria, when we want to eat and others are present. We offer them part of our food, even if from the depth of our heart we're praying for them to say No, thank you.
(2) Their nephew, i treat him like i would treat my blood brother, which they're very much aware of. He's the same age as my younger brother plus we're few Nigerians at school, so i try to be there for him, so he doesn't mix with the wrong crowd. This is the first time he's leaving home. I absolutely believe that whatever i make happen for others, God will make happen for me. It may not be now, but in the nearest future.

Even if i was asked, i would've said no because i was fasting. I just think it's plain courtesy. I know most Americans, don't ask people to join them when they're eating, especially if they don't know you. Could it be that these folks have imbibed the American way so much that they've forgotten their roots? I really can't tell. Anyway, i hold no grudge against them, and it doesn't make me think less of them.

Looks like my friend, Miss M is in love. She came to my zones this weekend and was gisting me about her special friend she met in July at the Women's convention i was supposed to attend. The girl seems so happy, and i'm happy for her too. This bloke was scoping my girl out at the convention. Makes me wonder whether i would have caught a "fish" too if i had attended. The guy is really serious. They talk about everything and they even pray together and have their quiet time together. How nice and sweet, right? I believe that is more romantic than any candlelight dinner. He's about 5 years older than her and he's no longer willing to play the games guys play. My girl even said she has fallen for him o. Kai! It is well.

My weekend wasn't all that productive. I planned on studying throughout, which i did but not to the extent i would've loved to. I attended the picnic my bible study group organized. 'Twas so much fun. I even invited 2 people, and they promised to come with me to Bible study on Wednesday. My friend, MO that graduated in May is yet to get a job. Okay, she got one with GSK, but when they realized she wasn't a permanent resident, and she wasn't going to be one till next year, they refused to employ her. What pissed me off was that she already filled out all the paper work, they told her to start Sept. 18th, she had quit her 2 jobs already, signed the lease to her apartment in the new city, already prepared to relocate, when they called her last week to say, they want a full-time employee for the position as soon as possible and since the process for her green card wouldn't start till late this year or early next year, they couldn't offer her the job again. She was frustrated. I tried consoling her that the best is yet to come, etc. I felt so bad, 'cos i don't know what i'd do if i were to be in that position. The whole situation has made her draw closer to God. When i got to her apartment, she was reading her Bible and she also had some inspirational books. On Sunday, when i asked her to come with me to church, she came willingly and she's even telling me she'd love to attend Bible study with me on Wednesday. This is a girl i've been inviting to B.S forever. She came just once and refused to come again. Now, she's begging to come.

Why is it that when it seems as if all hope's lost, that's when we turn to God? I've been praying for her and my other friend, J and i know that very soon, the Lord will perfect all that concerns them. That has made me very serious about praying concerning my next step after graduation. I've not taken the MCAT so my chances of enrolling in med. school the Fall of '07 is slim to none. The med. school application process takes almost a year. I'm thinking maybe i'd work for a year and prep for med. school at the same time when i graduate. My sister, my friend M and myself have decided to set aside a day every week to wait on the Lord through fasting and prayers to draw closer to God and put all our future plans before him. I'm at work right now, and i'm seriously knackered. I need divine strength, 'cos school has started working it's magic on me already, plus i've some other stuff to do like my research work and shadowing, besides my school work. I already had Round 1 of the Big Bros Big Sis interview. I'd be matched very soon with a little sister, i'm so excited. Have a blessed week people.

25 comments:

Cherub (former Bijouxoxo) said...

'Twas one of those days when blogger decided to play ten ten with me. I posted once, but blogger decided to let the entry appear twice. I'm blaming it on blogger. I mistakenly deleted the 1st entry that had ur comment, Miguel.

The Life of a Stranger called me said...

concerning people behaviour, I have known a couple of nigerians that have ultimately adopted the western way of Life, with the disguise of saying when in rome act like the romans. Imagine. I am also happy that you set aside a day a week to fast for your future. I did and God was faithful to answer my prayers. It is well.

Belle said...

yeah, i would say that was rude of them not to offer to purchase you food... unless there were many other people there that they would have to do the same for? Perhaps they didn't want it to seem liek they were giving you preferencial treatment?

Cant wait for you to get matched so you can tell us about your little girl :)

Niyi said...

Bijouxoxo,

hahaha...@"when blogger decided to play ten ten with me."

I believe it's a good thing that you have decided to put all your future plans before God. He will surely guide and direct your path -Prov. 3:5-6. And He will also reward your faithfulness.

One of my favorite verses is "In a man's heart, he PLANS his way/course but God DETERMINES his steps"- Prov 16:9.It's all abt planning (our part),purpose and orchestration (God's part).

It is well. God will maintain what He has ordained for you. Have a great day.

NaijaBloke said...

Pele Xoxo ..well i dont agree with Nigerians adopting the western way shyte ... am pretty sure this 2 ppl u r talking abt were born and brought up in Naija o.

Cherub (former Bijouxoxo) said...

@TLOASCM: That's serious crap. I believe u should imbibe aspects of the culture that are good and appeal to u, (without forgetting ur culture)not just 'cos u're in Rome and want to behave like the Romans.

@Belle: They always buy lunch for everyone, plus it's common courtesy to just ask, even if it means i'd pay for myself. I can't wait to get matched too, i'd learn some tips from u.

@Niyi: Miguel thot that na so the thing pain me reach that i decided to post the entry twice, so i had to clarify things and blame it on blogger. Another reason i decided to embark on the 1 day a week fasting regimen, is 'cos i want to spend more time with God. To draw close to him, and train myself to be able to hear him talk to me. I pray i can keep up with it. As per blogger playiing ten ten, i heard it from someone or maybe i even read it from someone's blog, but i've forgotten who. Lemme acknowledge that fact quickly, before they come and sue me for copyright infringement.

@NB: Before nko? Of course, you can adopt the good aspects of Western culture, without forgetting ur roots. I'm all for that

Dipo Tepede said...
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Dipo Tepede said...

@ Bijou

Your love for God is really humbling.........

Well, may be you should have told them how you felt in a very subtle way. Or u should have said "you guys did not ask me to eat"(the way Yorubas say it).

Since you didnt say that, you have to quickly clear away your grudge because those are little foxes that spoil vine.

Remember Jesus saying "If you have any hurt against your brother,....

temmy said...

Hey my ''aburo''lol. You got me blushing with that Executive Producer thingy> Not to worry, i am still waiting for BELLE to write the script o.
It is so nice to know that you have set apart days to wait on the Lord. As xtians,we no get choice now. I trust that we shall overcome!

Down to my gist, i am still working on other facts, things are heating up here for me and i am having the time of my life.

LondonBuki said...

I like that you are so close to God and I am learning from you.

As for those yeye people that did not offer you food, WHAT?!?!?!? NONSENSE AND INGREDIENTS!!!

Niyi said...

hehehe...Yeah, Bijou.. I saw what Miguel wrote.. lol (saw it before it was mistakenly deleted).

It is very inspirational that you have a great desire to spend time with God and draw closer to him. I pray that desire grows in all of us.

It is wierd that the family didn't offer to buy you food sha (especially with our Naija culture as you rightly said).Maybe it slipped their minds (winking)..hmmm I wonder?

Talking abt "I wonder". They used to show a drama series in Ibadan (maybe Lagos too. not sure) where one guy loved saying "I wonder.. I just wonder". I will try to remember the name..does that sound familiar to anyone?

Niyi said...

hmmm.. yeah.. I think the drama series was called "Third Eye"

Belle said...
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TaureanMinx said...

goodluck and I pray you get what you want. I think i'll try the fasting too. Thanks for the idea.

As for those peeps....I don't expect much from anyone. Everything else is a bonus

temmy said...

Hey, you were involved in ASF in OAU? Is that the Adventist or Anglican Student Fellowship?

Cherub (former Bijouxoxo) said...

@Dipo: I have no choice, 'cos if not for God, i don't know what would've become of me. I am not holding a grudge against them, i've let that one go.

@Temmy: Hope ur head didn't explode sha?

@LB: I got the idea of setting aside a day each week to wait on the Lord from a friend. My prayer is to be able to keep up with it for as long as i can. It's a 2 way street, i'm also learning a lot from you. Even though i don't always post a comment on your "Mummy Monday" blog entries, i read 'em always and u and ur mum are in my thots and prayers. I admire u for ur courage and i pray God continues to uphold and strengthen u. As for those people that didn't offer me food, i'm not minding them jere.

@Niyi: Yes ke... Third eye was aired on Lagos TV too. Slip their minds ko, slip their minds ni. Abeg that one u yarn na tori for tortoise. Anyways, i really don't care.

@TM: My mum always tell us not to expect anything from anyone, so that if they fall short of our expectations, we're not terribly disappointed. I need to adopt that attitude.

@Temmy: 'Twas the Anglican Student Fellowship. Did u know someone there?

Teva said...

Young lady....Wetin dey happen??? Haba? I don come your blog now almost 20x and still nothing new....madam, no tempt us o! your ardent raders are waiting to be updated...btw, are you sure temmy said the guy was married??I dont think so

temmy said...

I dont. But i have a lot of Adventist friends. Meanwhile, update kia kia.

@Teva: Ex isnt married o.Well, not yet.

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

A lot of naija people just drop that style of " Come and Join me" cos i always invite my friends... naija or not to come and eat with me.. and they're always like awwww.. overwhelmed you're soo nice.. i start to laugh. na so naija dey do now.. even rememba wheneva someone fall you say sorry... if i say am here.. they're like you didnt do anything.. no b small oh.. lol

great blog

The Life of a Stranger called me said...

Dear xoxo - you must update your blog. I have visited countless times nothing. I am sure all is well, just study getting in the way. Take care girl.

Bella Naija said...

All the best Bijouxoso
I luv reading your blog. it is so inspirational.
I am very happy for your friend with the new lad. it seems as though they have God in their relationship so I pray it works wout
About your friend and the GSK situation...the life of an international student is H-A-R-D but God always secure his Children's futures.

All the best with your plans -med school etc....

~Bella

Anonymous said...

Nawa for those peeps o...I think you should call the woman doc aside and express how you feel/felt to her. Just simple..no quarelling y'know...

Cherub (former Bijouxoxo) said...

@Anon: Are u kidding me? Calling the woman aside to talk about food? No way.

Tutsy said...

which kind doctor are u sef......lol....i think i would have to secong bijuoxoxo on this one, the last thing you need is an all out confrontation, all in the name of helping the patient,.....abeg, na patient, not my relative. Besides why should bijouxoxo have to tell her, she no get mirror for her house?

Daddy's Girl said...

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