THANKS A BUNCH TO EVERYONE THAT COMMENTED ON THIS ARTICLE. BELIEVE IT OR NOT, Y'ALL HAVE HELPED IN CHANGING MY VIEWS ON THIS. I'VE HAD THIS ISSUE BUGGING ME FOR ABOUT 2-3 yrs. LESSON LEARNED: ALL OFFENDERS, WHETHER THEY'RE REPENTANT OR NOT, MUST STILL PAY FOR THE CRIME COMMITTED and THERE'S A BIG DIFFERENCE BETWEEN REVENGE/ VENGEANCE AND JUSTICE, THAT'S WHY WE'VE THE LAW.
Was going to blog on my weekend, but will do sometime during the week. How was everyone's weekend?
This has been a topic/ issue that has been on my mind for the longest time. I know it may be considered as controversial for so many reasons, but here's my take on revenge/ vengeance. I recently watched something on one of the news channels, about a lady who was raped about 10 years ago or thereabout. It so happened, that the rapist, turned a new leaf, and wanted to make peace with the lady. Somehow, he got her address, and wrote her. The lady (now happily married with kids), met up with the rapist. To cut the long story short, she decided to press charges against him for what he did to her so many years ago. According to her, she said he took a part of her away and that her life has not been the same since then. She narrated the anguish and pain she and her husband had to go through. In as much as i sympathize with her, in my humble opinion, i really don't think pressing charges against him was the way to go. Then again, who am i to talk? I've never been raped before, i didn't have to go thru what she endured. It's only one who wears the shoe, that can truly tell where it pinches.
I heard about another case, heck there are many such cases out there. Someone's kid/ family was murdered, the murderer confessed to the victim's family, and they had him thrown in jail. Here's where i beg to differ, pressing charges and having the offender thrown in jail, won't bring the dead back to life, neither would it help in reducing the trauma u had to endure as a rape victim. So, why bother? First off, for the offender to contact u and confess, that's a bold step. Yes, i know they need to be held responsible for their actions. Yes, i know they may not be truly repentant and may do just about the same thing to another unsuspecting fellow. Then again, if u look at it from this perspective, what if the offender didn't come to confess, you'd still live ur life.
I don't know if i'm missing something here, but that's how i see it. Is there a sense of fulfillment u (as a victim) gets, knowing that the offender is behind bars even after so many years of perpetuating the act? Better still, does it satisfy u or make u happy to know that it was Mr/ Miss X that actually caused u so much pain and misery and now it's pay back time. I'd rather think that u wouldn't even want to know/ see the person that caused u pain. To justify revenge, some people even add that, "I'm not doing this for me, but for those out there, i don't want someone else to have to go through what i went through." It's hard to forget, YES, but does revenge help u forget either? Absolutely NOT!
I'm not being spiritual/ religious here (however u may choose to call it), even though i have tons of bible verses to give on vengeance/ revenge. I would really like to here ur views on this, especially if u've been a victim or the perpetrator. Like i said earlier, i've neither been a victim nor perpetrator, these are just the views through my brown tinted glasses.
The Procrastinating Perfectionist
5 weeks ago