Thursday, August 03, 2006

Should she accept him back or not?

Things are happening in this small town of mine. Imagine, infact can u just imagine that yeye boy, infact he is not only yeye he's a nonsense boy sef, may indecisions not finish him. Y'all would be wondering who i'm abusing like this, it's Dave. Let me tell it like it is, 'cos that's what i always do. I don't sugar coat stuff. I'm so angry, ehn, you'd think this issue is about me. Abeg, which one be my own sef? Why would my blood pressure rise on top of someone else's issue?

I've 2 very good friends, T and J in this my little town. BTW, J passed her RN (Registered Nurse) exam, Thank God. I'm so happy for her, u'd think i was the one that passed. The gal has been through a lot, a real hustler. God answered our prayers, 'cos it sure wasn't easy. Next thing is to get a good job, then the big bucks'll start rolling in. Anyways, I digress like i always do.

Dave, is from South Africa, (he's black) but went to college in Jamaica. After his undergrad, he came to the States in 2004 for his Masters degree. To cut the long story short sha, i noticed he was tryna get close to my friend, T. Everytime i asked T, she denied it. As u know say, no be yesterday they born me nau, me i sabi say sumtin' dey go on. I kept my cool and fashied (ignored) them.

Whenever T and I were studying in the lounge, Dave would show up. Next thing, my gal would excuse herself and wouldn't show up till 2-3 hours later. In as much as i wanted to ask questions as to her whereabouts, I kept my cool and resisted the urge. This continued for weeks, until they realized that afterall, we're no longer high school kids; so they'd sit in the lounge (disturbing me while i'm studying, if i might add) and be doing their mushy stuff for hours. I thought my gal was shy before, but i don't think so again 'cos she'd sit on Dave's lap, hug him like her life depended on the hug and they'd be kissing and making noise to disturb my studious self.

I wasn't hating o, but i was suspicious of this sudden love. As in, when did they get to meet? For how long? Are things not moving too fast? I cautioned my gal gently, 'cos i didn't want to sound like a numero uno hater. After a month of whirlwind loving, Dave and T broke up. Actually, to rephrase that, Dave broke up with T on the basis that after his Masters (in Computer Science & Security) program, he's likely to go back to Jamaica to take up the job offer he had before leaving, and he wouldn't want them to get so emotionally involved.

Whatdaheck?!?!? I was pissed. Infact, i was more than pissed. What kind of lame excuse is that? He was tryna sound considerate and nice, and T believed every word of what that liar said. Okay, think about it, in this present century, do they still put job offers on hold for people? Of course not! Only if na ur papa get the company. 2nd thing, why would he want to leave Yankee for Jamaica after 2yrs plus the fact that all his family's here? What i think most rational people in his situation would try to do, is that they'd try to get a job here.

My school, being very small, with everyone knowing everyone, na so tori dey begin to flow. People knew them as a couple already. The guy flirts with girls all the time, even in the presence of my gal. My gal had and i think still has strong feelings for this yam head. In all honesty, she wanted it to work, she tried to let him realize that u can't plan for tomorrow just yet. Live each day as it comes. I was her main advisor, infact the only advisor. After the break up, he'd still call and they'd be chatting into the wee hours of the nite.

Now, he wants to come back. He's begging my friend to be his girlfriend again. Apparently, we realized he got a faculty position at our school. As the chief advisor, I advised her against it. Now that there are many applications from prospectives coming in for my gal, this olodo (dummy) wants to be in the way of her blessing. God forbid. Tufiakwa! We no go see such kain thing! Infact, she already conducted the first interview on one of 'em and is in the process of hiring sef. A friend loves at all times, a friend sticks closer than a brother, abi no be so? How nice would it have been if they had been together, even before he knew what God had in store for him. They would have weathered the storm together then, and be counting their blessings now.

In my opinion, this boy would only love her when things are rosy. He claimed to love her dearly in '04, but this perfect love couldn't cast out all his fear of the unknown. Abeg, that is counterfeit love right there.

On midnight gister, he's doing ok. Just that i don't entertain his midnite gist again, so most of the time when he calls, i'm in zzzzzzzzzzland, and i'm terrible at returning calls, even though we have the same service provider and it's free o. School's starting soon and i'm excited, but i know the drill, i'd be waiting for it to be over after the 2nd week of classes.

My best friend T is going to the State capital for her internship in the governor's office. My gal will be rubbing shoulders with those in the corridors of power. I'm so proud of her. She and one other gal were chosen to represent the school. My other best friend, J will be working in NY. So i've to try to find at least one other best friend this semester. If not, i'll make do with my acquaintances a.k.a. hang out buddies and try to like them.

P.S: Y'all should show my gal luv on her page. Right now, there's a juicy story she needs advice on. You know what they say, "2 heads are better than one." Here's the link to her page again www.sapphireaster.blogspot.com.

19 comments:

Miguel said...

bijouistic..VOLTRON!!!

SapphireAster said...

Whats ip bijouxoxo. Thanks for the free Advertising you are doing o. I got my phone back last nite! I think I can guess who your friend is...or maybe just one of them.

Mari said...

sup bijouxoxo, as a friend you have done ure part. You've cautioned her as much as you can without sounding like a numero uno hater but she needs to make this decision on her own. She'll learn at the end of the day. Good or bad but you should be there to support her. this is just one of those things we fail to see when we are involved.

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Cherub (former Bijouxoxo) said...

Miguel, my blog paddy, Scrabble partner whose behind i always whoop (i know, u don't have to burst my bubble) what's up nau? Which one be voltron in dis one we're talking about. I'm only watching out for my friend, moreover they don't share the same beliefs completely, he's 7th day adventist.

Sapphire, u are a correct aproko, tatafo like me. Keep on guessing, since u know those i roll with u know the person already. I'll holla at u this weekend, since ur nice iya oko mailed ur phone to u.

Mari, another blog paddy, 'sup? I know she needs to make the decision on her own. There's a limit to my advice. The thing is why fall into a pit, with ur eyes wide open? I'm always there to lend a listening ear to her.

NaijaBloke said...

Abeg Bijouxoxo u dan do ur part,just leave the gal make she decide cos if dem finally hook up back,dem fit turm for ya head o.

Anyway thx for stopping by my blog ..need to add u to my list.

Chris Muss said...

thanks for the comment.

btw, i have known a couple of computer science/engineering people who got their jobs back after going to school. they'll do it if they like you and you've been working there for a while.

NaijaBloke said...

Be like say Midnite Gister dan finally occupy ur blogging time.
Chie I trust my guy!!!

Anonymous said...

what has believe got to do with relationship.Tho not as if i support what the dumbass guy did o.But i take offence in u saying he is 7th day adventist.I am one and we are good people.

Cherub (former Bijouxoxo) said...

Oh no! Anon. i'm not condemning 7th day adventists. My very good friend is SDA, and i've attended SDA services a couple of times and i thoroughly enjoyed myself.

All i'm saying is that my friend's (T) beliefs scares me at times, and this guy is a staunch adventist, so i dunno how they would work out their differences.

I apologise if it sounded offensive, by adding that he's SDA, i didn't mean it in any offensive way. Are we cool now?

SapphireAster said...

hehe xoxo...where have u been?

Dipo Tepede said...

Very intersting, very very interesting....

but is it true?

Cherub (former Bijouxoxo) said...

Haha! Is what true? You mean the story or what?

Dipo Tepede said...

The story is very funny and interesting.

In fact the write-up is captivating!

But is this story really as you said it?

Cherub (former Bijouxoxo) said...

Dipo, the story is true, just that i've changed names and some other info that may be used in identifying the people involved. Hard to believe, right?

Dipo Tepede said...

Yep!

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