Thursday, November 02, 2006

What went down on Halloween nite

Tuesday started off like any other normal day, went to work, to class, for club meetings and decided to check out the new gospel choir that was meeting later that nite. My friend had invited me to join, but i was hesitant being that i already have a lot of things going on at the moment. Anyways, i went and ended up singing alto, and i was the only alto for the group. I was surprised though, that the windows didn't shatter from my singing. My friend, Miss T always tells me i can't sing. Anyways, after the tryout, my plan was to study for a little while, before going home. Out of nowhere, my friend, let's call him hormonal a.k.a. Hormo walked up to ask if i could drop him off at home. First off, i need to describe the kind of r/ship i have with hormo. I see him as a brother and accord him his own respect and i really can't say we're buddy buddies like that.

I told hormo i planned on staying to study for a little while. Anyways, i agreed to drop him off at home and since his house was on the way to mine, i was just going to go home after dropping him off. I normally don't shelve my plans just like that, but being that it was his 1st time of asking me for a favor, i obliged him. Anyways, on the way to my car, he grabbed my arm/ held my hand and i told him to let go. Then he said his reason for holding my hand was 'cos he wanted me to slow down. We got into my car, then hormo asked if i had food at home, 'cos he was hungry. I told him i hardly ever cook during the week since i'm out most times. On the way, just before i made the turn out of school, he then told me to pass another route. I'm like what's the point, 'cos that was a long way. Na so him begin tory, that he was only testing me to see if i was going to drop him off or not, that his car was right infront of the building we had the rehearsal. I thot he was playing some silly joke on me, as in what was he testing me for? True, true, his car was right in the parking lot. I parked next to his car, expecting him to get out so that i could go my merry way. Waited 1 minute, hormo didn't budge, 2 minutes he was getting more comfortable, 3 minutes, hormo had reclined his seat a lil bit and pushed his chair back for leg room. I'm like dude, i need to study.

Next thing he said was , "I never get to hang out with u, u're always too busy or sum'n." Okay, at this point i'm thinking what's this dude up to. Since when did we become buddies like that to be hanging out? I obliged him still and asked where we should go to hang out. Hormo said we could just remain in the car and talk. I agreed, since in all honesty, i've never had a real conversation with him. So we remained in the car and started talking about his trip home last summer, and so many things. Next thing i knew, my dear hormo was running his fingers thru my hair. I was shocked as in, since when? I told him to stop 'cos i wasn't comfy with that. He stopped for like 15 minutes and began caressing my face. I'm like dude, ur oily fingers from my hair to my face, that's gonna clog my pores and i'd break out, u need to stop. He stopped and said afterall, u can't break out on ur hands, at least i can hold ur hands. Grabbed my right hand. I let my hand go. Why? I dunno. So please, don't ask! There were a 1001 angry things i wanted to say as in give him some serious tongue lashing, but i was too too shocked, tongue-tied to say anything.

This dude, great guy, even preaches in school, at his church. Very focused and he really has his head screwed on tight, very active on campus. I was shocked 'cos i've always seen him like a younger brother, never in the light in which he portrayed himself on Tuesday and i never would see him in that light no matter what. I'm almost a year older than him, i consider him immature not 'cos of his age but from some of the things he says, i think he's arrogant. In short, there's no way i can date him, not possible.

We talked and talked while he held on to my hand the entire time. I was so uncomfortable, yet i didn't know how to say the 1001 angry things i had going thru my head, without sounding too harsh on him. I didn't want to be mean and aggressive or hurt his feelings and bruise his ego, in such a way that he would never be able to step up to a girl. He's a great guy. However, i had to cut him loose and tell him to go when he started rubbing my right thigh. I'm like what the heck? Oh boy, u really have to leave now, i need to go home. Hormo was in my car for 2 hours and 15 minutes. He even had the guts, to say i was breaking his heart by telling him to leave. Imagine? Maybe he thot i'd fall for that. Anyways, like i said i was too shocked to understand what was going on, so i called him the following day, that i would like to speak with him.

We had the meeting, and i asked him what all that drama was about. He was tryna play smart, asking me what drama? I was so serious with him, no smiles nothing, i even surprised myself. Still wondering how i pulled off that serious look. I just had to put him in check u know. He then started apologizing, that it was dem hormones (LOL) , i was seriously amused, but i didn't let any silly smile show. He said he got home and was thinking how dumb and silly he acted that he doesn't know what came over him, and he promised that it wouldn't happen again. I know he doesn't drink, so i was 100% sure that he wasn't intoxicated or anything. We had just left the rehearsals together and we were there for about 2.5 hrs and he was himself thruout.

I was glad we settled the issue amicably (at least from my end), no hurt feelings, hopefully he knows where we stand on this. He said it was a mistake, so let's leave it at that. I'm thinking though, that if it was truly a mistake, why then did he lie that he needed me to drop him off at his house? Why was it after he knew my age, that he started acting silly? When i told him my age at the rehearsal, he was like i really thot u were much older. Anyways, that's the gist o my people, no addition and no subtraction. Was i too soft on hormo or what? This was a serious temptation, but thank God nobody fell.

41 comments:

DiAmOnD hawk said...
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DiAmOnD hawk said...

hmmmmmm... and Hormo.... hormo??? seriously!

anyways girl i dont like guys touching my face AT ALL. I would have slapped his hands away quick fast and in a hurry and INSISTED he leave my car cuz I gotta go...

y did you let him hold your hand...Bijou...why why why...I think we need to have a serious talk...but I feel you sha on doing things u dont know why u doing them. Once I kissed a guy...dont know why. He just walked in...leaned over in this romantic movie leading guy kinda way and he kissed me...and I let him...what was i thinking.
WHAT WERE YOU THINKING
lol

hmmmm. I have a feeling this matter is only settled "amicably" on your part...

Uzo said...

Oh dear. I sense some amorous feelings on his part. LOL

The Life of a Stranger called me said...

hmmmm - I dont believe it was a mistake on the man's part - his plan was well thought out and executed - so he knew what he was planning to do before hand - but I wonder why you - and not someone else - he may be a bit hormonal - but quite possibly you are the reason he's hormonal - LOLOL - but seriously the Lord delivered you from that temptation - hmmmmmmmm -

Mari said...

Hormo...what a name to give. Sounds like Homo. All I can say is if you are happy with the outcome of the situation, then thats good enough. But you might have broken his poor little heart....hehehhe.

Dipo Tepede said...

My dear Bijou,

Let me ask you a question. How would you feel if you hear Hormo raped one of the choir sisters in future?

Well, let me see what would go on in your mind. I should have put him in his place so he will be scared of ever trying such an act again.

You let him go easily therefore re-enforcing the darkness in him.

You would have rebuked him not for your sake but for his sake. You also have the responsibility of praying for him. He really does need it because he confessed his hormonal weakness to you. He is your brother.


When you spare the rod, you would definitely spoil the child.

Beautifully Human said...

I dont think you were too soft on him; you handled the situation pretty well. At least he knows the 411 now, abi?

ABBEY said...

ewwww...caressing ur tighs, running his hands through your hair...what the heck!! but I know how it is, we girls are socialized to be nice and sometimes ur just too shocked at what's happening to even say anything. But it is scary cus he could easily have raped you like Dipo said. thank GOD!

I tell you, all these church guys, I'm sorry, me I run away from them cus they are the ones that hide the most stuff because they are under pressure to be of good behavior.

NaijaBloke said...

Xoxxo ..Kokoro Ewa ooooo

Of cos u let me off easily .. first of all he was in ur car with u for 2hrs 15mins doing what?U shd have thrown him out of the car.Which rubbish feelings r u trying to protect from hurting... what u shd have done from the on set is let him know that nuthn like that is going to happen btw u guys and tell him to get out of ur car.What would u have done if he had assaulted u?

Anyway just take care of u

Grateful said...

Bijou.......Bijou.......Bijou.......(shaking head)....ki lo wa fa iyen...lol......i actually think you love him.....lol

Cherub (former Bijouxoxo) said...

@Diamond: Girl, that's the big question i don't have an answer to. Gal, u better believe it, this issue has been fully settled on my part.

@Uzo, amorous feelings on his part? Maybe, but not on mine. He's too immature for me.

@LOASCM: Aunty na which one u dey talk again, haha? Please o hormonal 'cos of me? No way. I dress modestly enough so i doubt it was me. I think he had everything well thot out, looking back now but just couldn't admit it when we spoke last nite.

@Mari: I'm more than happy with the outcome, as in i just can't see him any other way. Like u were there, he actually said i broke his heart of gold (lol).

@Dipo: I was just too shocked! I rebuked him though, when we spoke last nite and made him know i was highly disappointed that he, of all people would go to that extreme.

@BH: Hopefully, he knows the 411. Thanks jere, looks like u've been in a similar situation before to know how shocked i was.

@Abbey: Are u telling me? Now i know how some people get raped by people they least expect. I doubt that he would've had the nerve to do such. But then again, how about the stuff he did. He really did overstep his boundaries. We were in an open parking lot that was fully lit, with people around.

@NB: My broda, we were talking o, i swear by my $200 Histology textbook. I was trying to keep my cool, not to embarrass the broda o, but i see where u're coming from. It was a well lit parking lot and there were people all over the place. Thank u jere, i'll take care of me.

Cherub (former Bijouxoxo) said...

@grateful: Don't let me "be igi fun e" (break a stick on ur head). Love who? where? when? Nah!!! man, i love him just as a friend, not in a romantic way.

Belle said...

i'm confused... is this the same dude from the "HMMMM" post? From that post, i thought you liked him...

"Now i know how some people get raped by people they least expect."
Exactly.

At least you came out of that situation on top. Even holy holy dudes fall. For some reason, they tend to be the ones i get the most scared of because you let down your guard, and they strike!

It is well... and i'm glad you called him and let him have it. Stupid boy. **hiss**

Cherub (former Bijouxoxo) said...

@Belle: It's the sam hmmm guy. Wow! Did i come across like i liked him from my previous post? That's the point exact;y, u let down ur guard, thinking they should know better. Anyways, i thank God nothing terrible happened. I just had to set things straight with him so he doesn't start getting any ideas.

The Life of a Stranger called me said...

@bijou - from the previous post I though you liked him - anyways what I meant by my comment - was maybe e secretly likes you - seing as he already knew you before - he might have haboured secret feelings for you - are you not a fine girl? - This particular guy just didn't know how to handle his hormones.

Teva said...

hmmmmmmm!
Double hmmmmmmmmmm!
Triple hmmmmmmmmmmmm!
Madam, honestly I would be totally freaked if a guy got inappropraite with me. The more if we are friends. Even if i liked him, it would through me off balance. I think you need to have a straight talk with him. Be clear, firm and precise. I hear that guys may do anything to catch the attention of the babe they like, but that was a little too extreme, and if he really cares, he'd have sensed ur discomfort and backed down!
If this whole situation has made you feel more for him, then maybe he knew just how to get your attention, but if there's a splitting shadow of doubt about his intents...MAKE IT CLEAR TO HIM!

Miguel said...

Bijou your right thigh abi? don't mind the guy ..he should have gone for the left...lol...

ChiefO said...

no wonder they call it halloween. orisirisi nonsense happens on that day. i wanna know if wat he had on, on tuesday was his halloween custume and he was only playing a halloween joke or better still he spirit of halloween made his medulla oblongata hollow.

Cherub (former Bijouxoxo) said...

@LOASCM: Why are u siding him, ehn? Maybe he secretly liked me but 'cos he always thot i was much older, didn't act on his feelings (lol). May his hormones not get him into trouble. Nonsense kid!

@Teva: That was waaaaaaay too extreme. I've had the talk with him, so hopefully we know where we stand. I tell u, i feel nada, zilch, nothing for him. Never have and never will. For one, i'm older plus he's immature.

@Miguel: What kind of comment is this, ehn? This comment is overflowing with sarcasm. Abegi, tell me as it is, don't mock me!

@ChiefO: It must've been the spirit of halloween that made his medulla one kind. The bobo wasn't in any costume or anything. I have a feeling u know my true ID, do u?

Dilch said...

The guy sounds really irritating. That whole thing about oh I was joking, my car is right here would really have done my head in, and irritated me so much that I wouldn't have been able to talk to him. I agree with the other suspicious minds on the post though. 2 hrs, that's a REALLY long time to talk to someone in an enclosed space, jist must have been sweet oh.........(lol)

Naijadude said...

If that was how it went, BIG bravo for you. Probably the feelins were mutual, either ways, you did really well. Cos if it were the average person, homeboy would have had it well.

ChiefO said...

bijou, u are still asking questions whether i know ur ID is fake or not. how could you not know that i know who u are. i know ur sister. i know ur brother. i know ur mum, i know ur dad, i know u went to QC, i know u were a day girl, i know where u lived in naija. i was gonna put the details up but then it is between the twice of us to know all that.

anyway, do u have an aunt that stays in suffolk county, long island. if yes then u know i know who u are. and even if u dont. i still know who u are. but since u want ur ID classified then i would keep it that way.

Cherub (former Bijouxoxo) said...

@ChiefO u're a serious alakoba. I still insist that u don't know me! U only think u do.

@Dilch: Trust me, everything i wrote down, was as it happened. We were just talking about random stuff.

@Naijadude: The feelings are not mutual. That was how it went. If not for God, that put me in check, to even tell him to leave, i can't imagine what would've happened.

Cherub (former Bijouxoxo) said...

@ChiefO u're a serious alakoba. I still insist that u don't know me! U only think u do.

@Dilch: Trust me, everything i wrote down, was as it happened. We were just talking about random stuff.

@Naijadude: The feelings are not mutual. That was how it went. If not for God, that put me in check, to even tell him to leave, i can't imagine what would've happened.

ChiefO said...

alakoba from where to where. now u are going in the direction of those that have told me i'm nutts. are u trying to say all i know is just a mirage and that it is not wat it is? but wait o bijou, u didnt question my answer neither did u answer my question. so i'll take it that u are u. and if u still insist i dont know wat i'm talking about then there is a big problem o.

babe said...

Na wah oh for all these boys that like using style to tap current....testing you keh...sha sha you handled yourself well

babe said...

and yeah...loved your blog by the way. Will be back.

Miguel said...

Bijou...I think you handled the situation well... there are certain things you'd expect from people and certain things you wouldn't expect but i'd say at the time the dude ran his fingers through your hair, that should have hinted you as to where things were headed... i think your best course of action should have been to ask him to leave your car and call your cell to talk. Look on the bright side though...I doubt he'll try that again!

Cherub (former Bijouxoxo) said...

@ChiefO: I am not me! I think i may have to agree with those that say u're nutts. U're just imagining stuff and making things up. Suffolk county, LI it's my sister's aunt that lives there.

@babe: Thanks jere babe. Don't mind him using style to tap current (lol) Are u an ex-QC chic?

@Miguel: U're now talking. I admit i'm a naive chile (shhh don't tell anybody). Dude would've been the last person i would've expected that from, at least now i know better. Next time, my antennae would be up.

Overwhelmed Naija Babe said...

jesus christ... I swear i commented on this post oh.. BIJOU WHAT HAVE YOU DONE WITH MY COMMENT EHN?!?!? YOU GET QUESTION TO ANSWER OH!!!

lol.. heya.. the poor boy.. its not his fault now babe... he wants to make you his wifey... its not his fault ur a fine girl...

lmao.. i hope you had ur natural hair in when he ran his fingers through it... cos its been funny when my ex ran his fingers through my hair and felt 'bumps'.. that was the day he actually realized that those blonde and red curls were not my natural hair.. lmao... have a great week babe.. and UPDATE UR BLOG ASAP!!!

ChiefO said...

bijou i figured it was ur sisters aunt that lived on LI. i shoulda known it wasnt urs. i admit its me thats been thinking i know who u are. abeg no vex it was a remix up. hope i am 5given.

Biodun said...

While me I was stuffing myself silly with chocolate, some brotha was tryna tap current from u, lol,I so dislike it when anyone touches my face, like ewww!

Vera Ezimora said...

Bijoux, I cannot comment on whether you were too soft on HOMO or not because franky, I cannot get past the HOMO name you gave him. I realize why you gave him the name of course, but HOMO???

TaureanMinx said...

He was trying his luck. Maybe he thinks girls are just as 'hormonal' loll.

Nike said...

Bijou,
Whaddup? The guy sounds arrogant to me, and I'm sure by the time he retells the story, he'll probably say you were into him the whole time but you were just frontin'. Yep, he sounds like a potential assaulter to me, the line "she wanted it too" sound's like something he would say if asked.

Just be careful, don't go to his house alone, don't be alone with him in a dark corner, don't be alone with him, period!! Church guys may look innocent, but like the good book says "by their fruits you shall know them", a word is enough....

babe said...

Yes I am girl....how did you know

inya said...

i would have told him where to go. seriously. if you want to approach me don't do it on the sly. after all are we not grown? which ones now?

men who are worth your time will not make you feel uncomfortable, talkless of GO OUT OF THEIR WAY to make you feel uncomfortable! lol

The Life of a Stranger called me said...

I have updated my blog - isnt time you did also - xoxo - is it all the study again that is separting you from us??

NaijaBloke said...

U no go update ya blog again .. abi ..Hmmmmmm.....

Anonymous said...

lol i was wondering about the flowing locks of hair part too...hahahahah

mehn oh mehn, boys will try anything but i bet he really liked you tho what he did was out of line (he just didnt know how to handle it)

...same thing happened to me a while ago and i killed him with guilt, lol it was too much... he never looked me in the face again...

he was such a good boy, even my cousins didn't chop when i told them what went down...they were like am i sure i didnt do something to make him go haywire looool, he was a good friend tho

Cherub (former Bijouxoxo) said...

@Overwhelmed: Girl, are u hallucinating? When, where, how did u comment? Wifey, for where? Nah, not even in my dreams. Natchy hair ke, i wish as in seriously that woulda deteerred him. Blonde and red curls LOL, only u dis babe. Kai!

@Biodun: Don't mind the olodo boi, tryna tap current for real.

@VERA: Wey ur bifocals? Ur eyes are playing tricks on u again. I said "Hormo" there's a difference clearly not "Homo"

@TMinx: Trying his luck, maybe? But this dude knows what's right, the more reason i was shocked. I guess there are times when we stray from the truth.

@Nike: For some weird reason, i feel like i know u. You never can tell sha, the way we Naija's are connected. For real, the guy is arrogant and he knows better than to start spreading the gist. First off, he doesn't want to agree that he could've fallen easily if it was some girl that was willing to go all the way with him. Thanx for the advice jere.

@LOASCM & NB: School has been my oga for a while now. It's been one exam after another, presentations galore. Can't wait for this semester to be over. Will update over the weekend.

@babe: 'cos u write like one!

@inya: For real, girl. I'm tired of guys approaching babz on the sly. It's not as if i'm not that approachable o!

@Anon: "Flowing locks of hair" for where? I guess he must've liked me for a while to have the courage to do what he did. As in, my best buddy i told, she thot i was hallucinating. The boy doesn't look me in the face again. Maybe he's ashamed of himself, who knows.