Sunday, March 18, 2007

How Bijoux was serenaded with love songs

My people, what's up? Trouble sleep, yanga come wake am. Na so i dey sit down jeje when my NY guy, Kesto called me. Long and short, this boy was wooing me o with some Andrea Bocelli and Heather Headley love songs. TEMPTATION galore. Sha Sha Sha we gisted for a long time and this boy was yarning orisirisi (different things), beating around the bush. I've known Kesto for almost 2 years now. He's been doing Mr. Nice guy ever since we met, u know not making his intentions known and trust me to "play" along. As long as u don't talk, me too i no know anything.

Today sha, he was yarning how he really likes me, how he's studied me and noticed that i've surrounded myself with a lot of barriers, and it would take a "real" man to break thru those barriers. How he respects me, u know all those sweet nothings that make "us" blush (lol). He's telling me he's willing to break thru those barriers to know the real me and build a friendship with me. All the while, i was just joking around. I then asked him, why he would want to break thru those supposed "barriers?" Abi now, i just had to stick my finger down his throat. By the way, u guys shouldn't mind the yeye boy o, i'm an innocent somborri (Naijabloke can testify) so all those talk about barriers, the boy was just yarning rubbish.

Dude was like, ok u wanna know why? I really like u, like doesn't even begin to capture what i feel for u and i've been shy all this while to tell u since we're from 2 different backgrounds and i don't know how u'll take it. Sho! This bobo even went on and on to tell me some qualities i had from his interactions with me, that i didn't even know existed. He's like i think u really like me, but u're trying to hide it/ u're in denial. A whole ME, BijouxoxoCherubKokoroewa na me Kesto wan put for corner. Oya lemme talk true, my head swell sotay it almost exploded o. I was enjoying the attention and all (lol).

Anyway, i had to break it down for him, as per declare my true intentions and what i thot abt him. Oya my people, between you and i, i like Kesto as A FRIEND. He's reeeeeeeeeaaaaallllllyyyyyyyy handsome. As in the brother is FOOOOOIIIIIIIIIINNNNNEEE. He's also one of those well built brothers, u know what i mean *winks*. Shege! I should be studying o. Anyway, i just got off the phone with him and decided to drop it like it's hot on here for u guys, u know download the gist fresh off the press (lol). Only thing that disqualifies him is that he's not a committed christian. BUMMER!!!

What's Bijoux's definition of a committed christian? Good question. I don't think he has a personal relationship with God. Granted, church-going doesn't really count. Talk about a serious TEMPTATION. Our values/ beliefs are totally different from the lil' i know. The brother's 29, and i really don't know much about him except the very basic stuff. So he wants to get to know me. I'm thinking in my head, Why? Abi now, since there's no way there. That one na serious dead end. I sha made him know that i appreciated the way he made his intentions known, even though i had to prompt it.

My people, the question i'm posing to u now is Why-Oh-Why do the guys (like OF) u're feeling and want 'em to yarn u sweet nothings, serenade u with love songs and woo u, not do that? I tell u, borrowing Miguel's statement, God truly does have a sense of humor. Just 2 days ago, i was telling a friend som'n, and now today, look what i'm facing. Be careful what u ask for.

Have a blessed week.

35 comments:

DiAmOnD hawk said...

right off the press indeed...i am FIRST!!!!

if NaijaBloke can testify to your innocence...hmmm...me thinks that makes u guilty o!!!!

abeg pass Kesto over...

but which kin OP is yarning now... break thru barriers? which barriers is he talking of...is it the one that he erected himself? abeg he should take time o

but that's how it is o...the ones that you're not really feeling are the ones that put the effort into it

my dear FLEE...from temptation...

Niyi said...

lol@ sweet nothings.

That cracked me up big time. Your Naija slangs really cracked me up.

So, what did you tell him ( I see that you said you made him know you appreciated the way he made his intentions known)?

Did you bring up the 'Committed Christian' issue?

Daddy's Girl said...

Na wa o, this guy really knows how to lay on the raps. You too your head was swelling abi? LOLLLL Anyway, be careful sha. LOL Good luck, and thanks for sharing the gist.

bimbylads said...

lol.. na u biko.. fine broda like that! piri piri hes not commited.. pray for him sha.. u never can tell- but dont compromise..

The Life of a Stranger called me said...

and what did he say his problem was - He has been watching you, well let him go back and continue his watch..lol..But that is life, the people you feel for don't feel for you and the people they feel for dont feel for them. Its like a vicious circle. I even had to counsel sombori over the weekend concerning this.

I guess you can learn from this, that God does answer your prayers and has told you that you have too much admirers, and if He wants to bring Husband today He can, but there is something He wasnts you do in the mean time before that person comes.

So the good thing is you have lenty plenty options, but only one will do. But until He comes, pray better prayer...we don't want disqualified people...real person is what we want.

Have a blessed week.

Mari said...

lol@this girl. But first let me apologize for not gracing ure blog with my comments for a while. Dont get it wrong, I've been a silent visitor.

Your reason for disqualifying Kesto is not so fair. I think you should give him a chance. Think of it this way....you could be the person to introduce him to a closer relationship with God. And as long as his other qualities are acceptable with you, don't kick it before you try it. For real, dear.

temmy tayo said...

Aburo mi owon, lol.I feel u jare.
It is a funny world. You go gaga over someone that doesnt seem to see what is burning around him.

But errm, no worry ya beautiful head. He will soon show face.

Calabar Gal said...

KEsto is foiine abi? I have a younger sistah who is still unmarried. Abeg pass him over promto!! LOL!!

My dear, the broda's that arent spiritual right now may later on become even more dedicated than u oh. Give d broda a chance abeg. I have seen spiri, spiri broda's fall by the wayside cos they were 'forming' all along. Get to know him as a person - but then you probably do already abi? (smile)

Me I would say go for it if you like him enough. Chikena!!

Jaycee said...

LOLLLLLL...

If Kesto is well-built and foine, yayyyy...TEMPTATION!!!

But I understand all the reasons for a no-no...lol. Be careful what u ask for. How abt NIYI nawww??? (lolllll)...

Eagle's Nest!!! said...

Interesting viewpoints!!

I particularly agree with Calabargal but with a note of caution - Men are expert pretenders. It is easier to fly a camel across the Atlantic ocean than to make a non-believer agree with you on basic spiritual issues. Do not be unequally yoked together - says the Bible.

Beloved sister Cherub, I'll suggest you pray for the soul of Kesto. I am a man, a believer in the Lord, and I know what we are capable of doing. After touching ground here and there, we then start looking for innocent ladies to prey on. Kesto does not deserve you at the moment because both of you are members of different kingdoms, but that does not mean God cannot change him.

Kesto sounds like a hoillywood breed kind of guy. Did you say the guy lives in New York? Have mercy oh Lord and help my sister Cherub so that she will not fall prey to the wiles of the devil.

I think it's time to hurry up and post my thesis on "Insight Into The Mind of The Average Man."

Jaycee said...

Ooooohhh...I love what Mari is saying, but I just want to add that most people have problems in their relationships because they claim to have the power to "change" the other party. Be very careful of that. How abt leading him closer to God while you are 'friends' first? Because if u start dating him and he no gree nko, then fight go come start! Wahala! This one is not abt discrimination, it is just abt avoidance of broken hearts! Tis the reason why the bible says, "do not be unequally yoked," because its gonna KILL YOU INSIDE!!! You'll be crying inside, due to heart-ache and worry!

londonnaijachic said...

hmmm! me likes fine brother oh!But i love you for knowing what you want and the fact that you are not willing to compromise.If you like him which am sure you do, why don't u try encouraging him in that path of having a relationship with God.Just start subtly nothing full on.

Cherub (former Bijouxoxo) said...

Praying for him to know God, will be a good thing but i'm scared that the motives behind my prayer won't be 100% pure. I dunno jo. I like him for real, but i'm not ready to compromise on my beliefs. I've gone that path b4 of tryna get a "toaster" to know God, but i realized he was going to church and faking it, just to make me happy.


@diamond: U did "ojoro" jo. HA! U know i'm innocent nau.

@Niyi: I did bring up the CC issue, albeit in a very subtle manner. He knows where i stand regarding my faith. Plus i told him, we'd always clash since my values/ beliefs are different from his. We won't be able to flow fully. I mean, the conversation's nice and all, BUT ...

@Omo daddy: My sista make i talk true, the raps dey sweet my belle no be small even thinking about 'em now's making me blush.

@Bimbylads: Infact, the bobo foine no be small, first time my aunt saw him she went like " omo okunrin lo da to yii, to si n gbole."

@LOASCM: U're hard o sista. He shld keep onlooking abi (lol). For real o, will i say God isn't bringing admirers my way? HECK NO! They're there plenty plenty, BUT they all have K-leg.

@Mari: I've beefed u o, but good that u came to explain. Now i'll have to find a place in my heart of gold to forgive u. I'm giving him a chance now, we're friends.

@Calabar gal: All i told him was that for now o, i really can't promise anything that we could still be just friends. I really don't know him well enough, so that's the next step. Getting to know him as a person. Ur sista should back off.

@Jaycee: U be instigator o. See as u wan matchmake me abi? UNCLE NIYI, how far nau Jaycee said u shld step up ur game a.k.a. holla at me a.k.a. i dunno jo, i'm just yarning opaks (LOL). Jaycee, i tell u my sista, serious TEMPTATION but i'll overcome.

Joel: Abeg hurry up with that ur post ASAP. This sister needs to read some things on there. I'll pray for him as suggested, i'll really try to keep an open mind. He lives in NY o. AMEN to the prayer. I know men can pretend esp. when they want som'n plus i won't even make the BIG MISTAKE of going into a r/ship with him hoping i can lead him to Christ that way.

@Jaycee: U again? Keep 'em coming. Thig is i don't want my intentions to be misconstrued. U get? If i'm trying to lead him to God while we're friends, he may see that as a green light. Lord knows, i can't stand to suffer any heartache.

@LNC: U like foine brodas abi? NO COMPROMISE galfriend. That's what i planon doing, getting to know him very well and encouraging him to develop a r/ship with God. Like i said i only know the very basic stuff abt him.

mystoriesmytestimonies said...

i just saw ur comment on jaycee's blog... i decided not to have comments on my blog cos of personal reasons... i enjoy reading comments on other blogs.. lol..
thanks for checking out my blog....

Niyi said...

Save me Loooooorrrrrrrrd!..from blogger drama , lolol.. j/k

Cherub (former Bijouxoxo) said...

@MSMT: U're welcome, but me sha i'd still love to post comments. Oya supply ur email addy (lol).

@Niyi: Amin l'oruko Jesu. What drama? Tell me u're not enjoying being the center of attraction? (lol)

Cherub (former Bijouxoxo) said...

@MSMT: I'm serious o, please mail me ur email addy or post it on ur profile. That "lol" behind the statement was accidental b4 u think i'm playing.

NaijaBloke said...

Hmmmm... is all I will say ..(sitting down and planning on my comment down the road in 2yrs or so..LOL)

@Diamond ..what r u trying to say o ....LOL

Joy said...

Hi Cherub.. Even though everything looks right, i'm with eagles's nest, you are of 2 different kingdoms... and there are very few major decisions that will impact your destiny and God's purpose for you than marriage. If you go into the relationship with the thought of influencing him, u run the risk that his decision to God may not be sincere... Before you were born, God knew you and He will bring that man with whom His purpose will be fulfilled in your life. Limit the relationship while you can before emotions get tangled in. God will honor your obedience beyond your expectations. Stay Blessed !

Simply Gorgeous said...

This guy needs to let up a little. You have already explained to him thqat you don't feel him like that. So he has to understand your wishes and just accept the friendship.

chioma said...

I can almost bet you were in CLF. The truth is everyone has written some stuf that kind of tru but you alone know whats true. Is he born again? No then guard your heart. I have a few friends that married guys that were not commited and today they are paying the price. Pray for him and try and lead him to Christ you will know if its for real.If you value your walk with Christ its hard to be unequally yoked. My husband is bornagain but even the fact that I was a spiri coco(well kinda) and he was a new christian affected us. My sister just pray and guarg your heart, let him know how important your christian walk is to you(without betryaing how your totally smitten!)All the best!

law_damsel said...

hmmh! life is really funny isnt it? i understand wat u mean by ur motives wont b pure if u decide 2 pray..been there, woh stop worryin urself joh, ur only human, just substitute d worryin 4 prayer u'll b ok...

Vera Ezimora said...

Okay, I didn't know I was supposed to click on the snap thing to leave a comment!

Anyway, God definitely has a sense of humor, my dear. But I thought u had the crush on me....?

yankeenaijachick said...

Hey girl, storie don land. lol. long time no read......nice reading ya blog again. funny storie.

ChiefO said...

so master K has been running is software on u, no wonder u no get my time. u now turn aroundand try to make me feel guilt for not calling. nonsense and maggi make i call u this night. u have to update my software on gist o. its getting seriously outdated for my own good.

mystoriesmytestimonies said...

i am just reading this today ...
my email is joyhappiness2004@yahoo.com
i will post ur comment on my blog..
sorry i hope this is not late...

Kafo said...

hmmm
God does have a funny sense of humor
U said he was fine as in FINE
o ma se o

Jaycee said...

Bijoux..I just listened to what Diamond shared right now...I'm so blesssed by it...(I'm still listening right now to the play-back thanks).

Vera Ezimora said...

Oya eniff of the love songs. Can we get an update please?!

Teva said...

Yes o! if your only defense is naija bloke then you are guilty as hell...So he's fine!....bla bla bla..for starters u dont really like him...thats y u are kinda picky.
2nd, girl, i got no words to say. Been there, its never a good idea to start what u cant finish but hey love, its your decison

temmy tayo said...

Aburo mi own, shey alafia lo wa. gege bi emi na shey wa ni London.pataki oro mi si e ni wipe. UPDATE!!!!!!!!!!

Jaycee said...

UPDATEEE JARE...

Orientatednaijababe said...

pls stay strong..i admire you for not compromising on ur beliefs..I pray that God can strengthen you and direct you. I really admire your strength. And nothing wrong with enjoyin some few praises here and there....go girl!!!!

Sisinaija said...

You go girl... pls do not compromise your faith for a guy... I have been there before and i got burned badly... Now i won't date a guy who is not strong in the Lord and you know them by their fruits! Wareva the secret life is, it will come out ooo!
Very lovely blog by the way!

Simply Gorgeous said...

Cherub, come and post your comment- the judges are getting impatient..