Hey folks, how're u doing? YAY ME!!! 2 posts in a week? I'm really getting better. Ok, i've been thinking a lot about this. So as usual, i decided to use my blog as an outlet to let off steam. DISCLAIMER: This topic is not about anyone in particular or in reference to any incident.
Let's begin, oppposite sex friendships we all know can be difficult, and it is quite challenging especially when u're in a serious/ committed r/ship i.e. when u have a boyfriend/ girlfriend. I'm going to be very open and tell it like it is on here and i know this isn't unique to just me.
Most of my friends, and i mean friend in every sense of the word (not acquaintance) are guys. I've 2 best friends. A bestfriend girl and a bestfriend boy, like i call them. Those who know me, can testify that i'm one of those easy to talk to pple. I can be a complete goofball when i want to. Anyway, to the koko of the oro (crux of the matter), i love my boyfriend a lot (yeah, yeah! who cares?), but i find it difficult striking a balance, in such a way that i won't make anyone uncomfortable.
The other day, the mister and i were together, when this random guy [let's call him Former Bad Boy (FBB). He gave himself the name not me] i met sometime ago walked up to me. Apparently FBB has/ had designs on me, which i was oblivious to, as always. We chatted on and on and since then we've become acquainted. The mister's so uncomfortable whenever i'm around FBB and i've tried to put his mind at ease so many times. Good for him to know he has competitiors out there, so he acts right, some may say. Of course, FBB knows the mister but he still says we can be platonic friends. No qualms, afterall i have many other guy friends that i talk to for hours.
Then there's this other friend i have in Canada that's just wonderful in every sense of the word. An absolute darling. If the mister wasn't in the picture, i probably would be dating him now. That's not to say i'm comparing the mister with him, not at all neither does it mean that i'm having second thots abt the mister. I talk to Mr. Canada all the time. About twice a week just to catch up on what's happening in his life and all what not, do some amebo here and there, shey u get?
Let's not even bring the Naija guys into this pix. They say out of sight is out of mind, so i think i can handle that side very well. Now the experts that know how guys and girls think say that, ladies are emotional wrecks sorry beings, they also claim that when a guy and a girl are getting too close, just platonic closeness, that if care isn't taken, one/ both parties will start developing feelings for the other. Hmmm ... Food for thought. I daresay ,that it's not always the case just from examining my friendships. What do y'all think? Are platonic opposite sex friendships still possible, even if the person liked u before? Does constant communication bring about affection? Please, be as honest as possible. Remain blessed folks.
The Procrastinating Perfectionist
3 months ago